My friend, Susan Barbee, just sent me this link to an article by Martha Beck called 20 Questions That Could Change Your Life. Question four is the title of this blog post and I've included that section below.
"Feel free to switch out the words in brackets:
You may like TV more than exercise, or bad boys more than nice guys, or burglary more than reading. Whatever the particulars, every woman has something she likes more than the somethings she's supposed to like.
But forcing 'virtues' -- trying to like people more than cupcakes -- drives us to vices that offer false freedom from oppression.
Stop trying to like the things you don't like and many vices will disappear on their own."
That last line is powerful. I think that many of our problems are just the symptoms of failing to be ourselves.